Embracing Dichotomy and Duality

January 24, 2020 By

Life is a series of dichotomies—highs and lows, abundance and scarcity, connection and division. When I embrace the duality of each moment, I am able to observe, rather than hold on to one or the other.

For example, last week I was in Redondo Beach, California. The skies were blue, the sun was shining and I could go for a walk outside with a light sweater.

Now, I’m in Seattle, Washington where the forecast for the next 2 weeks is rain, rain, and more rain.

Truth be told, I am a pluviophile and love a good rain shower, but two weeks non-stop is a little much for even me.

The contrast is significant. As is the contrast in so many other areas of life. Highs and lows come and go. What I am learning (sometimes the hard way) is that there is freedom and power in holding the opposites lightly and not being attached to what shows up.

What are the dualities showing up right now for you? How do you practice non-attachment? I’d love to hear!

1 Comment on "Embracing Dichotomy and Duality"

  1. Katarina
    January 25, 2020

    It can be challenging but I find that the harder I try to hold onto something, the more that I push it away. This has been a painful recurring lesson over my lifetime and one of my areas of greatest growth. The first key is to notice that tendency to grasp and to recognize it for what it is... generally this younger part of me that feels that she is not lovable or not enough. When I am in the role of the observer, I can recognize and comfort this part of me without trying to make her wrong. It has taken a lot of shadow work and even work with plant medicines to get to the core of these beliefs and patterns, but now that I recognize them for what they are, I have the opportunity to make a different choice. In the past I might have tried to control or manipulate another to get them to do what I wanted... not purposefully, but unconsciously. Part of waking up has been taking responsibility for these patterns and recognizing that it is my work to heal the part of me that is afraid and needs to control. Looking outside of myself is not the answer. As I heal myself, I attract those who are in alignment with the person I am becoming. If I want to keep them in my life, I need to keep evolving. By staying in the present moment, I invite them into closer connection and my practice is to keep coming back to myself and to notice when my monkey mind tries to start spinning stories about the future which I cannot control. The only person I can work on is me. My relationship with the person in the mirror is the only one that really matters.

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